{"id":11457,"date":"2020-06-14T02:26:53","date_gmt":"2020-06-14T06:26:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theothershift.com\/?p=11457"},"modified":"2023-08-02T17:00:01","modified_gmt":"2023-08-02T07:00:01","slug":"relationship-problems-because-of-opposite-schedules","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theothershift.com\/relationship-problems-because-of-opposite-schedules\/","title":{"rendered":"No More Relationship Problems Because of Opposite Schedules"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
Disclosure: This page may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission if you decide to make a purchase through our links, but this is at no additional cost to you. Please read our disclosure<\/strong><\/a> and <\/em>privacy statement<\/strong><\/em><\/a> for more info.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Before we got married and whilst preparing for the big day as young 20-year-olds, a counselor told us that relationships are hard, require work and are all about compromise. We looked at each other and secretly rolled our eyes and giggled thinking “this will be a breeze”. Then shift work entered our lives! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Working opposite schedules requires planning and communication. Actively listen about your partner’s needs. Set aside times for in-depth and meaningful conversation. Organize date days\/nights and never comprise on this. The little things do matter and know your relationship can thrive.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The challenges we face as shift workers may be different, but are no more stressful from those working 9-5. Sometimes you may feel like ships in the night with your partner but know plenty of people keep their relationship alive when working opposite shifts<\/a>, whilst even enhancing it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In case you’ve forgotten and never thought to understand the benefits of being a shift worker or having a rotating roster, check out a seperate article post reading this one on the 13 key advantages to shift work<\/a>. It will provide you with plenty of reasons to embrace your roster.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Enough of the prologue and let’s get into why you’re here. We sat down as a couple, both working opposite schedules, and detailed the best insights into how we make our relationship work. We hope this helps you with any struggles you may be currently experiencing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Are you hearing or listening? A great question that does require some thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being an engaged and purposeful listener boosts relationship confidence and produces trust and report, whilst also working as a stress aid. I know that sometimes, I just need Dan to sit and listen for a little bit whilst I produce a verbal barrage. Just having him respond after it with a small question, helps me decompartmentalize<\/strong> what’s on my mind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Becoming an active listener does take work, so check out this article<\/a> for some tips. However, the benefits go way beyond your relationship and simply being nice or attentive to whoever is speaking. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As your competence as a listener grows, so will your confidence, and you can reap whole range of other benefits outside the relationship too.<\/p>\n\n\nActively Listen<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n